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glok
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Post "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: June 12, 2013, 13:29
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IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL

IF you love me let me fall all by myself. Don’t try to spread a net out to catch me, don’t throw a pillow under my ass to cushion the pain so I don’t have to feel it, don’t stand in the place I am going to land so that you can break the fall, (allowing yourself to get hurt instead of me).
Let me fall as far down as my addiction is g...oing to take me, let me walk the valley alone all by myself, let me reach the bottom of the pit....trust that there is a bottom there somewhere even if you can’t see it.

The sooner you stop saving me from myself, stop rescuing me, trying to fix my broken-ness, trying to understand me to a fault, enabling me.....The sooner you allow me to feel the loss and consequences, the burden of my addiction on my shoulders and not yours....the sooner I will arrive....and on time....just right where I need to be...me, alone all by myself in the rubble of the lifestyle I lead...resist the urge to pull me out because that will only put me back at square one.
If I am allowed to stay at the bottom and live there for a while, I am free to get sick of it on my own, free to begin to want out, free to look for a way out, and free to plan how I will climb back up to the top. In the beginning as I start to climb out....I just might slide back down, but don’t worry I might have to hit bottom a couple more times before I make it out safe and sound. Don’t you see?? Don’t you know?? You can’t do this for me...I have to do it for myself, but if you are always breaking the fall how am I ever supposed to feel the pain that is part of the driving force to want to get well. It is my burden to carry, not yours. I know you love me and that you mean well and a lot of what you do is because you don’t know what to do and you act from your heart and from knowledge of what is best for me....but if you truly love me, let me go my own way, make my own choices be they bad or good. Don’t clip my wings before I can learn to fly....nudge me out of your safety net....trust the process.

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If anyone knows who wrote this kindly please let me know. I would like to give credit where it's due. Thank you!!! 🙂

gerberred
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on: September 1, 2013, 11:13
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This quote is how I am living with my addict and I am the one enabling. A 30 year history is hard to let go of... I don't feel strong enough to leave and I am getting sicker by staying. What I live with is known; living without addiction is the unknown for me. I pray for/need courage and strength.

MC
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Post Re: "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: August 9, 2015, 18:14
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Wow. Very powerful. Thanks for sharing.

1son
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Post Re: "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: August 9, 2015, 21:47
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Thank you, I needed to read this just when I thought I knew it all, more frap shows up. The room where my son was staying we checked a drawer and found a bag of sugar cubes and three bottles of alcohol.

DeeMJ
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Post Re: "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: August 1, 2016, 14:53
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this is hard to read because I know it's true and I imagine my daughter writing it. I have left her to her life but worry all the time. It's so hard to love someone so much that you leave them alone. It's so hard. Thank you for this. It's powerful indeed.

Patricia
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Post Re: "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: September 24, 2016, 14:29
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This is very powerful. My son told me to let him fall the other night. I keep getting te image off the song "Rock A bye Baby" and the baby is rocking in the tree and the bough breaks and I have my hands out there.........waiting to catch him........and instead I pull my arms away and the baby falls. But my baby is bigger and stronger than me and even if I lefft my hands out there........he would fall through them. Neeeds to fall through them? Its a bit of my struggle.

Stacie
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Post Re: "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: October 31, 2016, 01:56
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Powerful well said

Boxie
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Post Re: "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: March 17, 2017, 09:34
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I am deeply moved. Beautifully spoken. Thank you!!

dowsabel
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Post Re: "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: March 23, 2017, 11:00
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This is incredibly powerful. Thank you so for sharing it, I know i will refer back to this many, many times in this journey of life with an addict.

srbrooks78
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Post Re: "IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL"
on: July 24, 2017, 13:41
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Powerfall words. I am trying to let my daughter fall. It is hard. I was told by a rehab facility, you want to catch them before they hit the bottom. I have been doing that for months and see nothing works and only gets worse. It may be time.

Shannon

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