Nar-Anon Chat™ - Group: For the Newcomer

SandiC1975 on Hi I'm Sandi and I'm new

Sat, 30 May 2026 16:08:16 -0400

Hello,
My name is Sandi and my husband is the using again I should say. He was clean for 15 years and then with a lot of misfortunate events that happened this last winter he slipped and started using meth again. I was so upset and hurt because we came so far and then I caught him. There has been lots of lies and excuses. I have finally came to terms that I will never be able to get him to sober up. I now know that it has to be him and him alone to do this. I will never leave him. I love him way to much to give up on him as well so I'm kind of in a rock and hard place. I prayed that I can find peace and patience and then Nar-Anon popped up on my google search and I started reading the stories. I have already found some peace just by reading them so I know the Lord showed me this so I can start working on myself. Anyways just wanted to say a little bit about my situation and that I'm truly blessed to be part of this group.

dugout654 on New here

Fri, 29 May 2026 18:19:00 -0400

the Nar=Anon goldon rule is the 3 c's. I didn't Cause it. I can't Control it, and I Can't cure it. Please come to our meetings and join our group. You will learn so much if you choose to work this program. 9:00 pm EST on Monday and Thursday, 8:30 EST on Saturday. We meet in the chat room.

Quietman4 on New here

Fri, 29 May 2026 05:52:01 -0400

Recently I discovered that my husband of 40 years has been buying cocaine from our son (who is 40 yo), and our son has been a drug addict for 2+ years. I'm devistated as all the work that went into trying to help him get over his addiction was instantly wiped away by my husband buying drugs from him. My husband has turned into someone I don't know anymore. He is 65, and wants to "work less", but uses the excuse that coke "helps him work harder". He works independently for some people as a handyman, and we have a couple of rental properties. He just bought another rental property, that will need alot of work. He has "disapeared" a couple of nights (his phone shows the rental property, but he does not answer). My husband had a problem with coke 20 years ago, and we worked through it. This time, nothing. No "I'm sorry", no remorse. He is verbally abusive, and arrogant, leaving his "snot" anywhere...sorry tmi but best example. Addiction runs in the family, this caused our other son to revert back to alcohol, not an excuse at all, but he feels like if they can smoke coke, and no one does anything, why is everyone all over me for alcohol. I've worked with him on that and we seem in a better place now. But how do I proceed with my coke addicted husband and son? Any advice would be helpful.

dugout654 on Hi, My name is Maria

Sat, 25 Apr 2026 15:54:06 -0400

Please join us for our meetings in the chat room. you will learn alot how to take care of yourself. we meet on Monday and Tursday at 9:00 pm Eastern time and 8:30 pm on saturday's. hope to see you soon.

krebsm76 on Hi, My name is Maria

Sun, 19 Apr 2026 11:19:33 -0400

My Husband is an addict he was clean & sober for 10 yrs and just recently slipped for the past 45 days off n on he/we are seeking help to get him into inpatient Rehab faciality I am struggling mentally, physically & emotionally from all this also almost lost my life due too sepsis march 24 this is my first chat ever Thanks

cynthia-anne on Hi, my name is Nicole :)

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 20:34:48 -0400

Thank you for sharing. Your circumstances have similarities to mine, although it’s my son who uses Meth. I’m afraid for him because he thinks he can get clean all by himself. He’s back at home now after we sold the house he didn’t want to live in any longer. That’s where he found demons and voices that were haunting him. Two or three hospital visits and one arrest later, he’s back in his childhood room. He’s 42.
I feel helpless at times, although I’m getting mental health assistance from a great psychologist. My son won’t get help. He attempts to go clean, but he has been unsuccessful. My husband and I are frustrated but I’ve been trying to keep peace because he’s been going thru cancer treatments. That is one of the reasons he says he came back home, although like I said he was ready to get out of that home we helped him buy.

Luckily we haven’t lost too much financially, although it’s so sad to see him with just clothes and a small amount of money. No job, no car, no will to do much lately. He’s isolated himself in his room for most of the day now, as there were some fights with us about him finally getting help.

I pray everyday for his recovery and so is all of my family.

cynthia-anne on Hi, my name is Nicole :)

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 20:19:37 -0400

Hello. I’m a newcomer. Need support

dugout654 on Newcomer needs support/help

Sat, 28 Mar 2026 09:02:09 -0400

Kami, our meetings are in the main chatroom.

Doug

dugout654 on Newcomer needs support/help

Sat, 28 Mar 2026 08:57:11 -0400

Hi Kami, I am sorry to hear about your situation. I am also glad you found ourweb page. Please try to join us for a group meeting. We meet at 9:00 P.M. eastern time on Monday and Thursday and at 8:30 P.M. on Saturday evening. Everyone in our group has a lived experience with addiction. It is a disease. You will learn alot on how to get your life back and deal with your son. Your story sounds so much like mine. I have a 38 year old son who has battled his illness since he was 14. He is currently in jail for assaulting and robbing me and will soon enter a 2 year drug court program for the 2nd time. If he messes up he is looking at several years in prison. I hope to see you soon at our meetings. Nar-Anon has given me some sense of sanity and a life back.

Doug

Kami on Newcomer needs support/help

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 07:19:55 -0400

Hi,

I am Karen, my 39 yr old son is a recovering drug/alcohol addict. He has been in and out of treatment since 16. He went to a dual diagnosis treatment after his best friend died and his grandfather died due to depression and to detox from Klonapin. He was there for 6 months. He came home Oct. 2023. He was laid off about 6 months later. He hasn't worked since except to cell his collectables. He lives at home. He has no life outside the house.
All his friends have gotten married or and still in active addiction in some way. i feel I am the worse person for him.

dugout654 on New Comer also with a significant other struggling with addiction

Sat, 31 May 2025 16:19:51 -0400

please come to our meetings. 9:00 pm on monday and Thursday. 8:30 on Saturdays. you will be welcome and learn alot.

Madisonsc on New Comer also with a significant other struggling with addiction

Mon, 26 May 2025 05:16:35 -0400

Hi! I'm new to this site and wasn't sure where or who to turn to. My significant other and I have been together for 9+ years, we have 3 kids together and we have another on the way. While things are good at times, they're really bad others. He's been struggling with addiction since he was 14 and I met him when we were 17. He's been to prison twice and could possibly be going back for a 3rd time, during this time though he has tried to do better and seek out assistance! We are constantly arguing to the point we question whether we should be together. I love him and want better for him, but he says I'm too hard on him and that me being hard on him only makes things worse. I wasn't always so hard on him but at the end of last year he overdosed in front of me and died, I had to preform CPR on him for 20ish minutes and I was really traumatized by that and I feel like that's why I've been so hard on him lately. Can anyone offer support or give me advice? He keeps saying that it makes it worse getting angry at him and being hard on him but I don't know what else to do, it can be so frustrating. I just need someone to talk to that can possibly relate.

jcineg on New Comer dealing with Spouse’s addiction

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 16:33:09 -0400

I just have so many questions my husband of 30 years just relapsed after 10 years and I dont know how to even behave around him when he uses. he is just so different i dont get it and everything is my fault. Life is my fault. his words hurt so much but I see that just by reading a few comments that everything sounds so similar. I am confused about boundaries?????? I feel like I could use some samples between husband and wife of what boundaries to start with. When he speaks to me in a mean way I definitely dont feel close to him and really just try to be silent
dont want to talk to him or be next to him but then i wonder if thats the right thing
its been really hard to learn again what im supposed to do and how im supposed to behave. He uses information against me and tells me what he thinks i need to hear or see. im just tired and its not fair to me.i feel like he can do whatever he wants
i also smoke marijuana with him daily for the past many years. now i feel like i must quit i get it. i have tried before and its hard and i am maybe resentful becuse of everything we have been through together. this paragraph is just a mild beginning to what we are together when he doesnt use
i wonder does he see the difference in himself in how he treats me

dugout654 on New here

Sat, 29 Mar 2025 16:17:22 -0400

Please join us for our meetings. you will learn so much for your recovery and how to deal wit SUD. we are in the chat room 9:00 pm on monday and Thursday and 8:30 on saturdays. Eastern time

Mz-Mcneil on New here

Sun, 16 Mar 2025 17:48:11 -0400

Hi everyone,
My name is Dawn. I am here because I am having a very hard time dealing with my 33 year old sons's drug addiction. I am definitely an enabler and hoping to find ways of doing things different. To say that I am mentally exhausted and overwhelmed would be an understatement. I would be here all night if I had to explain it all. I have been letting him live with me free of charge for over 3 years now in hopes that he will save money to get his own place. He has lights me a lot. He has threatened suicide before, I had him court ordered and they let him out less then 24 hours later. He has kids that he doesn't support financially n barely sees. He's rude and at times can be very disrespectful. I am just hoping to meet people that are familiar with this that can maybe help me through this. I literally can't sleep at night worrying about it he's safe it not and it's making me crazy. I have copd, anxiety, high BP, depression and diabetes. I need to focus on my health and break this cycle.